Comments on: Shorter, Fatter, Balder: Men’s misleading online profiles

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Mon, 24 May 2010 20:17:05 +0000

Well, as an online dating veteran, I can truly say that no matter what age, height, weight, or status men OR women claim to be, ONE of those things will be either embellished, downplayed, or lied about. As men age, they seem to expect that women won’t, or they want a 30 year old woman when they themselves are 60+ (yes, it happens….trust me!) Not sure why this is, but it sure seems to be true. Women are just as much to blame with the weight issue. I think part of the problem with this is that the sites don’t allow for someone who is more than “a few extra pounds” but less than “thick” or “large”…we do exist!!! Guys, if you’re 5′8″ SAY SO…don’t wait til you meet a woman to rush out and buy boots with 2″ heels and try and pass for 5′10″….Gals, if you’re 200 pounds and 5′4″, SAY SO….nothing worse than having to watch someone’s face contort into a smile, when they’re really thinking…YIKES!! Be honest, be yourself.

By: Roger Oster

Roger Oster — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 17:59:20 +0000

I (male)did online dating once, for a couple of months. Every woman I “chatted” with was “kinda” honest, as was I. I married one of them (at age 56), and we stayed together until her death 3 1/2 years later (cancer). I don’t date now, but think that people whining about “liars” are people way too interested in the shallow parts of their prospective dates. Just a thought.

By: troybal

troybal — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 14:33:13 +0000

Back in 2006-2007 I was doing online dating and had about 15 dates with women, every single one of them had issues with their profile. Either they had a glamour shot with photoshop done, or they gained weight, or where older then listed, or flat out was not them in the picture at all. Other items, they stated they liked something (like Football) but yet knew nothing about the game! lol Anyway, I think this works both ways. I never lied, there was no reason too, and when I posted my pic I would include the date in the picture so they knew it was recent and not from 9 years ago….

By: HaveFun

HaveFun — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 14:01:06 +0000

I read all of these comments and actually everyone has collectively hit the nail on the head. I’m currently doing the whole on-line dating scene and it’s both good and bad. I’m a decent looking 43 year old guy with an athletic body and actually am exactly 6′00
‘, 180# and fit. It’s all but impossible to meet a hot female on line. It’s easy to meet a lot of very nice women, but to meet a hottie is just about out of the question. The younger, fit women think I’m too old, and the women my own age are too old for me to consider. In either case, the women are all 35-50 pounds overweight! I lived at the beach in Florida for the past 20 years so it was easy to know what you’re getting when meeting a woman in a bikini at a beach bar…I’m living up north now and can’t believe all the fat women that live here. I think the funniest thing are the woman who disguise their fat with the cute tag lines like “curvy in all the right places”…I thought that meant a nice rack and maybe a J-Lo butt, but not “curvy” everywhere!!!

By: Mae

Mae — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 08:11:06 +0000

I tried online dating for less than 48 hours. As I was making my profile (I’m a woman) my friend flipped out when I tried to describe myself as curvy (I have an hour glass figure and am 20 pounds more than I was at a perfect figure but I’m tall). My dilemma was whether I should say I have a few extra. My friend’s dilemma was that in no way should I describe myself as curvy because then people would think I was obese. I put curvy. Since when does curvy mean quite heavy?

One guy refused to exchange any emails or instant messages what so ever, not even one exchange. He wanted to meet immediately or have no more contact at all. Maybe it was because he had been duped by women pretending to be physically something they’re not and didn’t want to wast time writing to someone who might be a troll. But I need to know you’re not a creep before I meet you…

The other guy, after I did some online research, I found out was a little bit fatter and balder, but was lying about his age by 10 years. I was 23 so I said the max age I was interested in was 35. He said he was 40. He was 50.

After those two I immediately deleted my profile.

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By the way men lie about their height ALL the time! Even to your face. I know this because I am 5′ 9″. Sure I am. Been measured plenty at the doctors, by myself, it’s a fact, indisputable.

I don’t think that’s even that tall.

90% of the time men lie through their teeth to my face, standing in front of me. Men shorter than me will claim to be 6 feet. Or they will accuse me of being 6 feet, or even taller. And they get so angry and touchy when I tell them how tall I am. They accuse me of lying. And they are always always the one to start it!! (By asking me my height).

They will accuse me of wearing high heels, even when I am wearing flats with sole’s 1/4 an inch thick, I’ve even been barefoot several times and had this accusation. You’d think this would be easy to argue but men will often yell over me while I am saying, showing, and pointing to my bare feet, or flip flops. They will yell “Yeah right you’re lying, those shoes add at least 3 inches.”

Guys of average height are the most touchy and weird and argumentative about it.

By: Smartacus

Smartacus — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 06:30:33 +0000

I definitely agree with the majority of the fellas on this one.Women online lie about everything from their weight to their marital status.There is no substitute for meeting a woman in real life and going from there.Think about this.Women using dating sites are not just having trouble finding a husband,or finding a boyfriend,they are incapable of finding a DATE.All the men they run into at work,school,the supermarket,church,synagogue,while commuting etc.,are 100% not interested in taking them out even for just dinner and a movie.That speaks volumes.And yet,the majority of these desperate bottom feeders all have the same exacting crieria for men.Over six feet tall,six pack abs,at least six figure income,never married,no kids,full head of hair with no grey,and white collar employment.Ladies,you only attract what you are.So if only losers are attracted to you,it might be time to take a long hard look in the mirror.

By: Bill

Bill — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 05:18:46 +0000

PS, i have about 50 pix on my profile.

Because i’m a narcissist, and i’m hot… ;)

http://wvvw.tagged.com/billy_c

By: Bill

Bill — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 05:15:45 +0000

I assure you, the majority of women lie in their profiles too.

I have gone out on dates with girls that were at least 2x the body mass as their pictures indicated, or who described themself as “well i’m not a barbie,” and were 200lbs +.

I always demand current full body pix now.

By: trb937

trb937 — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 04:19:24 +0000

What a copout! I may choose to not be rude because I’m not a mean person, but misrepresenting yourself because everyone else does it? Seriously, I have gone on ONE date where the man did not look like his picture. ONE. everyone does NOT lie. Maybe I just got lucky- I even had two guys admit they had used the best picture they have ever taken on their profile and then submit a more realistic picture to be sure I wouldn’t be mad when I met them. They realistic pictures may weren’t Christmas card material- but they still looked the same height, weight. age as the profile pic. Just so ya’ know. I met my husband on dating site. His picture was not that great because of the angle but I got to be happy that he looked better then what I was expecting instead of worse.

The real issue is that a person would be so insecure they think they have to lie to get a date. That is a turnoff all on its own.

By: Joanne

Joanne — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 03:10:53 +0000

All I’m going to say to all this is…. Men are looking for Ms. Right which means right looks, right body.. Just right.. However, Mr. Right is someone who can give them financial security. I’m not saying all to either one, but for the ones that are guilty of this, you know who you are..