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7 Steps to Writing a Threesome Personal Ad on Craigslist

2 October 2009 5 Comments by Justin Dimos

3-pairs-of-feet-in-bedMore and more people are exploring threesomes nowadays. Who knows why exactly? Maybe open marriages are becoming more pliable and partners are better able to separate love from casual sex. Maybe people in general are now more open to the idea of exploring their sexuality and experimenting with multiple partners. The fact is, however, that couples and singles are turning to online forums like Craigslist to entertain the idea of a threesome and screen individuals for this specific sexual experience.

And maybe you’re one of these many people who have a genuine desire to participate in a threesome, whether with two men or two women. But you don’t want to get caught with your pants down — at least not unexpectedly, that is. The question remains: how can you write a personal ad that captures what exactly you want for your threesome?

  1. Talk to your partner about the mánage à trois. If you have an open marriage or you’re dating someone who might want to arrange a threesome as well, you have to discuss the specifics. Is she comfortable with another woman? What are his boundaries if another man is participating? Would either of you want to share this experience with the same person on more than one occasion? And what type of person would you both prefer? One who’s dominant, or submissive? One who has a similar mentality about music, movies, and books? Or maybe one who is radically different from the friends you’re used to?

  2. Draft a personal ad that gets to the point. Include all the criteria you’re looking for in a man or woman. Who knows what kind of responses you’ll get from some general ad that just says you’re looking for a third person to join? Here’s your chance to be as specific as you want. Of course, maybe some things (like hair color, for example) are not as important as others (like body type), but you can always write those details and their importance in the overall scheme of things into your post. Once you and your partner have settled on a draft you’re both comfortable with, now you can post.
  3. Post your personal ad in the correct area. Most times, people looking for a threesome will want to submit their ad to Casual Encounters or maybe Misc Romance, and you shouldn’t have trouble culling responses from people browsing those groups. But if you inadvertently post your ad within one of the other groups, then individuals who may be a perfect match for you and your partner may never find you. These areas within Craigslist help everyone find what they’re seeking, so be sure to understand where you’re posting your ad when you finally submit yours.
  4. Make your preferences work for you. Craigslist gives you some key options when you’re posting your threesome ad in Casual Encounters. First, you’ll need to select the type of threesome you want (e.g., w4mm, m4ww, ww4m, mm4m, ww4w, mm4w, mw4m, or mw4w). Make sure you select the one that’s most appropriate for your situation, or else you’re bound to get responses from people who are looking for something completely different. Plus, your ad might even get flagged (and taken down) if you irritate people by advertising a desire that isn’t accurate, so be careful.Picture 87
  5. Select your location. More often than not, you’ll want to host the threesome just to feel safer; then, you should obviously select your city or town of residence. If you’re okay with people traveling, then you may want to consider posting in a populated area or major city that’s nearby. However, you can post in a different area, and you can always write in your location and your preference to host in the location field.
  6. Make every word of your headline count. As people looking to participate in a threesome scroll through the many options within Casual Encounters, you want to pique the interest of the ones who are most likely the best fit for your situation. That’s why it’s important to cram as much of the pertinent information into your headline as possible. Maybe you are a punk-rock-loving married couple looking for a one-time-only threesome with an attractive, smart, bisexual woman in her mid-twenties. Then, you should definitely squeeze as much of that information as you can into your heading. Or maybe you’re a voyeur just looking to watch a couple get down and dirty. Your heading should say it all.
  7. Be honest about your age. If you’re thirty-five and your partner is twenty-seven, make sure readers know this about the both of you. It’s always smart to include your ages in your personal ad to avoid confusion. However, Craigslist does give you the option to insert your age with your headline and location, but this can be tricky when there are two individuals submitting the post. The best approach is always the simplest, though. You can either average your ages, or insert both with a comma or slash between the two.

Bear in mind that you should only post if you’re serious about arranging a threesome, and you should expect to get as many inappropriate responses as you do interesting ones, so be careful. As long as you’ve included all the information about yourselves and who exactly you’re looking for in your personal ad, however, you should definitely hear from a few genuine, sexually-compatible individuals who might be perfect for the situation.







5 Comments »

  • Anonymous said:

    These “tips” are really, really basic. Especially the ones about choosing your preference, location, and posting in the correct area. WTF.

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