Comments on: Should you hire someone to craft your online dating profile and emails?

By: arcade fire

arcade fire — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 07:58:26 +0000

Well, I don’t know if that is going to work for me, however definitely proved helpful for you! :) Excellent post!

By: 4150486

4150486 — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 00:03:45 +0000

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By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 13:29:34 +0000

definitelystillsingle – it’s true that a profile does you no good if it doesn’t at least get you a face-to-face meeting. I see nothing wrong with getting someone with perspective to help you look good. But the line becomes fuzzy the more you rely on someone to help you out. I’m concerned about metaphors like “branding” and “marketing” in online dating, as if we are all products to sell … and we rely on professionals to get our messages out.

By: definitelystillsingle

definitelystillsingle — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:59:31 +0000

I haven’t done the online dating bit in a while, but I would let someone revise my profile for me. An honest answer to a profile question doesn’t translate into interesting reading by any stretch. “Describe yourself in three words” could render “warm, family-oriented, energetic.” Great. Who doesn’t possess those characteristics in some capacity? How do I give an honest answer that isn’t the same honest answer the other five matches before me gave? I would absolutely welcome fresh eyes to market me a little better than I market myself. I should really fire my current marketing director, in fact (me). Further, if as some have said the personality clicking doesn’t translate from email to face-to-face, so what? It’s good practice. For those of us who are awkward on first introductions, at least we’re getting chances to get used to it and get better at it, so eventually we’ll be able to bring our best qualities out in a first meeting. Those opportunities won’t ever arise if we don’t have a first email to begin with.

By: AndThatsWhyYoureSingle

AndThatsWhyYoureSingle — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:22:38 +0000

“You send me the user names of your potential matches and I’ll craft the perfect email that will grab their attention.”

I don’t think she’s saying she’d actually email the person herself. Rather she’d write up more engaging responses for her client to send themselves.

Personally, I’m wary of people who’s profiles are *too* clever or engaging. They’ve either paid someone to write it, which seems a tad bit desperate, or they’re trying way too hard to seem witty and clever and literate, and come off phony and trying too hard.

Listen, we all know that what people say in those tiny white boxes doesn’t really matter much if they’re picture works for us. I’d say spend money on good photos rather than someone to write your profile. Fewer and fewer people are actually paying for online dating memberships as it is and utilizing the free sites.

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By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:28:42 +0000

I hadn’t thought about it from that angle, Rachel. You make a good point.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:12:54 +0000

I think it is a bad idea to allow someone else professional or not into that realm. I think there are more dangers than just Ethics. Mail between persons can be very personal. Who knows if the individual is a trusting open person and divulges some sort of quirk or information that they just dont want anyone else to know or maybe not at a crucial point in thier lives? Should someone do that online? probably not but I believe that private is private and public is public. Two different roads. Having someone else, a third party involved is like someone who tells thier friends way too many intimate details about your relationship but this person is not even on friendship level so they could use the knoweledge for harm. It could be argued that no average person would do that but in my experience, yes they would. Gossip is evil and fun for people who fall prey to it, and it happens all the time. I consider it an invasion of privacy and a lie to hire someone else to handle your life in this way. If you are not a famous person who is too buisy to do it yourself then its just a bad bad idea. I hope people pay attention to the vulnerability factor at least…it might save them from an explosion. It is good to know that people are actually doing this. I know that I will think twice before hitting the reply button in the first place.-Rachel.