Are You Ready to Make a Sex Tape?
In the past few years, it seems every famous B-lister has had a sex tape “leak” on the internet. And just like watching Food Network makes you want to become a top chef, seeing enough grainy shots of a celebrity bow-chicka-wow-wow can be enough to make you say, “Hey! I could do that!” But you need to have a serious conversation with yourself before you start picking your porn name.
First, watch some real porn, preferably with a partner around. You need to be comfortable with the whole watching-people-have-sex-on-camera thing. If the close-up shots make you cringe, consider your motives. Are you trying to make your boyfriend happy, or is this something you really want to do?
Ease into it with some sexy pictures. Start with still photos you snap of yourself (from the neck down to be safe). You don’t have to show anyone. It’s just a way to test your confidence. If you can handle the pics, you may want to take a little video of yourself, too. Use your webcam to make a home movie of yourself in the shower or doing a striptease. When the realities of harsh lighting and lack of airbrushing set in, you may realize you don’t want to see yourself on tape. But if you kinda get turned on, you’re probably OK to bring a partner into the mix.
Your potential partner is one of the most important aspects of deciding whether or not to make an X-rated video. You need to do it with someone who won’t judge you later down the line. Making a tape with a booty call might be a better idea than making a tape with the future father of your children. The fact is, there may come a point in your life when you want to forget about your wild ways, and you need to be sure the guy can do the same. While it’s important to trust your partner, making a sex tape in a relationship with intense feelings involved may backfire. If your serious boyfriend has a jealous streak, is he going to spread the word of your tape when you break up? It might be safer to make the tape with a hot but emotionally unattached guy, who, when all is said and done, won’t really care that you did something taboo.
And the hot, emotionally unattached guys are the ones who are most often tape-worthy lays! Sure, the future father of your children may be cute and you may really like to make love to each other, but last time I checked, sex tapes were for talking dirty and banging out in all kinds of crazy ways. (As long as they make you look skinny on camera, of course.)
No matter how much you trust your partner, though, you need to protect yourself. First, for all sexy images and videos, you should have a separate memory card that you have control of at all times. Keep everything saved on a flash drive you keep in a very secure location – after all, you don’t want him e-mailing himself the video from your computer while you’re in the shower. You may be tempted to show your friends, but it’s just too easy for e-mails to be forwarded, so all viewing should take place on your computer. And while crazy banging is good, the kinky stuff is what makes for a juicy “OMG did you hear about this?!” video that may go viral in your circle of friends. Sure, it’s called a “sex tape,” but stripteases and, well, doing things besides sex (we’ll leave it at that) are totally OK. If you can avoid getting your face on camera a whole lot, that will also enable you to deny, deny, deny if necessary! However, if you have a distinguishing birthmark on your back, and you keep shouting “Say my name!” on camera … well, good luck with that.
If you feel comfortable on camera and have a good partner, a tape can ultimately be good for you. It can make you feel confident and sexy and give your sex life a boost. But play it smart, and for God’s sake, don’t tweet about it.